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Abstinence FAQ
Q. I've already had sex, so why not give it to everyone.
A. If you decide just to give it to everyone, you are placing yourself more at risk for contracting a STD (sexually transmitted disease). The more people with whom you have sex, the greater the risk. Some of these diseases are incurable and very painful. The largest risk of contracting a STD is an increasing number of sexual partners.
Moreover, sex is not merely a physical act. It is a deep emotional bond connecting you with the person you love. But, before you can love and respect someone else, you must learn how to love and respect yourself. Know that your life and body are worth significantly more than a mere object to be given to just anyone.
It is never too late to start over and decide that you don't want to have sex with anyone else until you are in a committed marriage relationship. We encourage you to make a pledge to wait and also to make a plan to avoid putting yourself into situations in which it will be difficult to say no.
Q. I want to stop but my boyfriend will laugh in my face.
A. Ask yourself: Am I doing this because if I don't he will leave me? If that is your concern, are you sure that this person truly loves you? True love does not want to fulfill only its own desires but will also respect your wishes and desires as well. This is a great way to tell if a person really loves you. There is a difference between love and lust; find out if that person loves you as an individual or just wants you for your body and his own pleasure. If he will leave you for not having sex with him, chances are he will also leave you for any other reason somewhere down the road.
Q. Why wait until marriage?
A. If you wait and marry someone who also has waited, you have the opportunity to build true intimacy by getting to know that one person and allowing him alone to meet your emotional and physical needs. If you have sex now, it will give you a false sense of security in having these needs met.
Sex is like glue, in that it bonds you to that other person. If you keep using the same glue on different people, eventually your glue doesn't stick as well as it should. If you wait and bond yourself with one person, the relationship has a better chance at being stable. By waiting, you also eliminate the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or experiencing an unwanted pregnancy.
There is more to love than just sex. Friendship and sex inside the loving protection of marriage will rock your world.
A. If you decide just to give it to everyone, you are placing yourself more at risk for contracting a STD (sexually transmitted disease). The more people with whom you have sex, the greater the risk. Some of these diseases are incurable and very painful. The largest risk of contracting a STD is an increasing number of sexual partners.
Moreover, sex is not merely a physical act. It is a deep emotional bond connecting you with the person you love. But, before you can love and respect someone else, you must learn how to love and respect yourself. Know that your life and body are worth significantly more than a mere object to be given to just anyone.
It is never too late to start over and decide that you don't want to have sex with anyone else until you are in a committed marriage relationship. We encourage you to make a pledge to wait and also to make a plan to avoid putting yourself into situations in which it will be difficult to say no.
Q. I want to stop but my boyfriend will laugh in my face.
A. Ask yourself: Am I doing this because if I don't he will leave me? If that is your concern, are you sure that this person truly loves you? True love does not want to fulfill only its own desires but will also respect your wishes and desires as well. This is a great way to tell if a person really loves you. There is a difference between love and lust; find out if that person loves you as an individual or just wants you for your body and his own pleasure. If he will leave you for not having sex with him, chances are he will also leave you for any other reason somewhere down the road.
Q. Why wait until marriage?
A. If you wait and marry someone who also has waited, you have the opportunity to build true intimacy by getting to know that one person and allowing him alone to meet your emotional and physical needs. If you have sex now, it will give you a false sense of security in having these needs met.
Sex is like glue, in that it bonds you to that other person. If you keep using the same glue on different people, eventually your glue doesn't stick as well as it should. If you wait and bond yourself with one person, the relationship has a better chance at being stable. By waiting, you also eliminate the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or experiencing an unwanted pregnancy.
There is more to love than just sex. Friendship and sex inside the loving protection of marriage will rock your world.
